The third chapter in Jordan Peterson’s “12 Rules For Life” is entitled, “Make Friends With People Who Want The Best For You.”
This instantly reminded me of the Bitcoin community and the fundamental values that true Bitcoiners have in common, despite many in the broader tech, finance, crypto and blockchain space labelling us as “toxic.”
Bitcoiners are the only crowd I have found whose primary interest is not “getting rich,” but “fixing the money so we can fix the world,” and when behaving in a manner that some might call “toxic,” are merely being intolerant toward skewing the core idea away from its core message and doing so from a place of deep insight and caring.
The following meme immediately comes to mind:
Bitcoiners truly want the best for others and the world, and are not willing to compromise on what it will take to get there.
In chapter three, Peterson takes us on a journey, reminding us that we should choose to spend our time with people who want things to be better for us, not worse. He reminds us that it’s a good thing to choose people who are good for you and who demand the most from you, but that it’s not easy because the tendency is to choose those who “accept” your faults, which may not be so good for you (a concept related to his prior rule).
Being vulnerable, naked apes, we tend to feed off of pity and unnecessary compassion instead of finding those individuals against whom it requires strength and daring to stand up.
Those who want the best for us are an ideal. They hold us to a higher standard. Their very presence can reveal the inadequacy of the present and the promise of the future, which in itself can be daunting, and hence why it’s a difficult task.
Once again, Peterson weaves some incredible principles together in this chapter and I’ve done my best to tease some of them out to help you understand another element of Bitcoin, i.e., the Bitcoiner and the tribes or metaphorical citadels they have built.
Peterson opens this chapter against the backdrop of a teenager’s lonely experience in the cold depths of Alberta, Canada. The entire community was cold, withdrawn, nihilistic and tuned out. Doing anything was seen as “uncool,” losers seemed to abound.
His friends spent more time high than sober, distracting themselves from reality. One of the quotes that made me laugh:
“My particles are scattered across the ceiling.”
There’s a strong analogy to the hopelessness and nihilism in much of the world today. We’re surrounded by people who’ve either given up or are brainwashed by mainstream madness. People are constantly seeking some form of distraction or escape because they cannot handle being alone long enough to face themselves. They fear the specter of their own increasingly meaningless existence. If you ever wondered why depression is so prevalent, this is why.
It’s a dangerous time for humanity because this version of the human experience has ripple effects that not only reinforce the nihilism, but breed people who don’t believe they deserve better. As a result, they repeat the behavior that got them there in the first place and sink further into the depths of victimhood.